Growing up, with black parents, we always heard counseling is for whites, you don't need to talk to anybody about your problems, just pray about it and God will handle it, and a lot more. BUT counseling is necessary for everyone, no matter your race, religion, et cetera. We tend to say we don't like telling our business to others but yet we post it on social media for the world to know about. Then we get upset, when others comment and question us about why we posted that. You rather put your life out there for the world but not seek help and get an unbiased answer about why you act the way you do.
"Counseling for me was necessary because it allowed a person who was non-biased about the person I am the space for me to express my feelings. Often I’m the friend that is strong or ppl see as emotion-less so when it comes to issues in my life I’m seldom given the opportunity to react emotionally like others who wear their hearts on their sleeves. In my first counseling session, I cried the entire time because I really never feel like I have a space to cry."
So I went to my followers on Twitter and asked the following questions:
Do you believe in counseling?
"Yes, it works for some people"
"Yes, counseling is good for those who want to seek the help they need"
Do you feel that counseling necessary?
"No, I don't think you need to go to counseling per se, but if it helps, it helps.
"Yes and no. It depends on the person and the trauma that they have been through."
"Also I think it’s important for people to have counselors who understand or identify the same way you do. So they can better understand me better as a person."
Do you have a counselor?
I need/looking for one 40%
"No, but I definitely need one"
"I got to the point in my life where I needed one again"
"Yes, I absolutely love her."
Do you like counseling?
"I am pretty sure, I would enjoy counseling"
"I love counseling, hearing her ask “so what’s been up? Anything new?” It gives me so much peace because it’s not someone I know personally or someone who will just tell me exactly what I wanna hear, I know when I vent she is definitely going to give me some insight and understanding that I can see from a different lens."
"I have a love-hate relationship with counseling. I love it because it helps me understand and process my traumas. But then I hate it because I hate being told about myself and how I am supposed to be acting. It's like I'm getting read weekly by a random who isn't random if that makes sense."
Has counseling helped you?
"Counseling has definitely saved my life...reviewing my goals with her from when I started in 2017 to now it’s like night and day, the results are impossible to ignore, even with med management, my sessions helped me regulate my emotions and mindset so I didn’t have to rely solely on medication."
"Counseling has helped me in a lot of ways. It's crazy how things work because I started counseling in May of 2017 and then I had the most life-changing experience happen to me in September of 2017 and I had someone there to help me through it."
Would you recommend counseling to your peers?
"I recommend counseling to any and everyone"
"I highly recommend it because the skills you learn can be used forever, you can get insight on situations you never even thought about. It’s always worth giving it a shot. I think of the times I had counseling after my Mom's passing and to the trauma up til now, it’s life-saving."
"I recommend counseling so much to my peers that they already know that my thoughts are 'You might want to seek counseling. You want my counselor number?' "
I also went around and asked counselors the following questions:
What made you become a counselor?
"I wanted to help people. I know that sounds cliche but it's the truth. I've always had a nurturing spirit and knowing how a person's mental health can affect them in every aspect of their life, I wanted to be able to help people become the best versions of themselves."
"Ultimately I want to help people. Just like anyone else, I’m far from perfect and have my own issues and struggles. Not to mention life’s experiences have shown me the need as well as the ability to be an asset to others. We are all one decision away from a life-changing moment. I hope to help others make better decisions for themselves."
"I became a counselor because of my own personal experiences with therapy. My first experiences with therapy were some of the hardest but most enlightening experiences of my life. Also seeing the limited amount of counselors of Color inspired me as well; I always wanted to use the knowledge and education I gained over the years to help people of color and counseling is a way for me to give back."
"I’m a social worker, not a counselor, but we do provide those services as well. When I decided to become a social worker, I was in it for children, but as I progress in the field, I find joy in helping everyone, regardless of age. It makes you feel good when you leave someone, knowing that you are playing a part in making their situation better."
"I love helping people and solving things. I used to want to be a lawyer or detective but those tracks can get very political. Like being hands-on with people helping them as much as I can."